Monthly Archives: February 2012

Ash Wednesday

“In many cultures there is an ancient custom of giving a tenth of each year’s income to some holy use. For Christians, to observe forty days of Lent is to do the same thing with roughly a tenth of each year’s days. After being baptized by John in the River Jordan, Jesus went off alone into the wilderness where he spent forty days asking himself the question what it meant to be Jesus. During Lent, Christians are supposed to ask one way or another what it means to be themselves.

If you had to bet everything you have on whether there is a God or whether there isn’t, which side would get your money and why?

When you look at your face in the mirror, what do you see in it that you most like and what do you see in it that you most deplore?

If you had only one last message to leave to the handful of people who are most important to you, what would it be in twenty-five words or less?

Of all the things you have done in your life, which is the one you would most like to undo? Which is the one that makes you happiest to remember?

Is there any person in the world, or any cause, that, if circumstances called for it, you would be willing to die for?

If this were your last day of your life, what would you do with it?

To hear yourself try to answer questions like these is to begin to hear something not only of who you are but of both what you are becoming and what you are failing to become. It can be a pretty depressing business all in all, but if sackcloth and ashes are at the start of it, something like Easter may be at the end.”

— Frederick Buechner, Whistling in the Dark: An ABC Theologized


Wedding dresses

Ok – so we’re well into wedding planning, and I’ve been terrible about posting blogs. Let’s just say life is a little busy right now!

But I want to rant about wedding dresses. First, if you’re thinking of getting married one day – start saving your money for your dress now.

What I didn’t realize:
Dress stores don’t have a return policy. You can’t return anything. Nothing. If you buy a hair-tie and you decide it doesn’t work, your SOL and putting it up on craigslist to try to get your money back.

After you pick out your dress you’ll need to buy:
Probably some sort of a wrap or scarf
Any sashes or additions to the dress
and then

In my case, all of this cost about 120% more than the dress did.

Can’t they make this all a package deal? You get the dress and the slip together? Why be surprised? I understand a no-return policy on dresses (especially after it’s been altered), but seriously – why can’t you return the extras. They have my wedding date on file – they could say “returns only in first 14 days” or something like that.

Not that there is anything I want to return, I just thought that was not a very nice policy. Maybe I need to open a stress-free-wedding-shopping experience. Brides only. People who cause drama get an upcharge.

Just a thought.